Togetherness
This week’s discussion was on some topics that are not often discussed. In fact, to some degree, they are avoided. As a class, we discussed the importance of better understanding the differences between men and women during intercourse. We also discussed how the media has painted a picture about intercourse and that is what people expect to see. But as always a lot of the work that goes into making a marriage work is lost in the dramatization of the shows or the way things are explained in the moment. We also discussed fidelity and some of the things that people can do without realizing that they are being unfaithful to their spouse.
Movies, shows, and general presumption about intermarriage relations have given false ideas about what people expect and don’t expect. One of the important pieces that is lost is the amount of work that goes into making sure that both you and your spouse are clear about your needs. Making sure that both of you feel comfortable and are willing to not outrun your spouse, but to slow down and take a few steps back in order to be closer to your spouses level or to be willing to push yourself a little more so that you can be closer with your spouse. Working to try to meet each other in the middle of what your needs are and not being unwilling to give a little for each other.
For women to be comfortable and able to relax they need to fully trust their husband otherwise for them the experience is not as nice as it is for their partner. Another one for women is that because they are able to keep track of things they consider important whether it is inside or outside their home it takes them a little longer to be totally focused on the moment. On the other hand, men tend to be really good at compartmentalizing and focus on the moment much faster than women do. Maybe in part because it takes women longer to mentally step away from everything that they play a part in it takes women longer to relax.
To many people, it may seem that if they are deeply in love they will never fall stop loving their spouse or be unfaithful to them. The unfortunate truth is that when we focus more on answering a text message than on listening to our spouse, or don’t take the time to build that relationship up we are being unfaithful. These may seem like small things that should cause no harm, but when the effort to do those small things is repeated every day they lead to much bigger problems and mistakes. It is the small things we don’t realize that will cause a problem. Even carpooling to work, or meetings with someone who is not your spouse creates a time and space where you get to know this person better including their dreams, and hopes from this can stem affairs and other such actions that you never thought you would do.
Another way of being unfaithful is having fantasies of having an intimate relationship with people who are not your spouse. Along with the possibility of causing an affair or unfaithfulness, this is something, in general, that should not be done because using anyone as the fantasized person objectifies them. By taking the image of someone and using them this way they don’t have any choice in the matter in fact they do not even know that they are being thought of that way.
The sexual relationship that happens between a man and a woman is sacred and should not be done outside of the bonds of marriage. Marriage is where the couple is committed to each other and have committed to work together for the health and happiness of both and not just the gratification of their own desires.
Movies, shows, and general presumption about intermarriage relations have given false ideas about what people expect and don’t expect. One of the important pieces that is lost is the amount of work that goes into making sure that both you and your spouse are clear about your needs. Making sure that both of you feel comfortable and are willing to not outrun your spouse, but to slow down and take a few steps back in order to be closer to your spouses level or to be willing to push yourself a little more so that you can be closer with your spouse. Working to try to meet each other in the middle of what your needs are and not being unwilling to give a little for each other.
For women to be comfortable and able to relax they need to fully trust their husband otherwise for them the experience is not as nice as it is for their partner. Another one for women is that because they are able to keep track of things they consider important whether it is inside or outside their home it takes them a little longer to be totally focused on the moment. On the other hand, men tend to be really good at compartmentalizing and focus on the moment much faster than women do. Maybe in part because it takes women longer to mentally step away from everything that they play a part in it takes women longer to relax.
To many people, it may seem that if they are deeply in love they will never fall stop loving their spouse or be unfaithful to them. The unfortunate truth is that when we focus more on answering a text message than on listening to our spouse, or don’t take the time to build that relationship up we are being unfaithful. These may seem like small things that should cause no harm, but when the effort to do those small things is repeated every day they lead to much bigger problems and mistakes. It is the small things we don’t realize that will cause a problem. Even carpooling to work, or meetings with someone who is not your spouse creates a time and space where you get to know this person better including their dreams, and hopes from this can stem affairs and other such actions that you never thought you would do.
Another way of being unfaithful is having fantasies of having an intimate relationship with people who are not your spouse. Along with the possibility of causing an affair or unfaithfulness, this is something, in general, that should not be done because using anyone as the fantasized person objectifies them. By taking the image of someone and using them this way they don’t have any choice in the matter in fact they do not even know that they are being thought of that way.
The sexual relationship that happens between a man and a woman is sacred and should not be done outside of the bonds of marriage. Marriage is where the couple is committed to each other and have committed to work together for the health and happiness of both and not just the gratification of their own desires.
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